don’t sexualise things meant for children like i dont care if you think i’m kink shaming you it’s gross don’t do it
don’t sexualize things [insert morally wrong thing here], like i don’t care if you think i’m [insert sexual group here]-shaming you, it’s gross, don’t do it.
This sentence appalled me, I did not know what ‘kink shaming’ was, so I looked it up. This post is referring to adults who use children’s toys or acts or aspects in sexual play with one another.
Imagine for a second that this post used the same structure and said “don’t sexualize things that support promiscuity, like I don’t care if you think I’m slut shaming you, it’s gross, don’t do it.”
There is something wrong with this. Something that I hope is obvious to everyone, that the hypocrisy is tangible. That people believe that slut-shaming (the act of making any person feel guilty or inferior for certain sexual behaviors) and kink-shaming (the act of making any person feel guilty or inferior for ‘kinky’ sexual behaviors) are two different things. I am not assuming the person who wrote this is a feminist, though I have yet to see an uproar about this post. Perhaps this is agreed upon as sarcasm, but I have to assume it is not for the risk of revealing the potential flaws.
Because the hypocrisy goes beyond this. The statement is building upon a set of moral beliefs that a person has. That children’s objects are to be kept from sexual acts. But what about the moral beliefs of countless people who think that sexual acts are to be kept between a man and a woman, or that sexual acts are to be kept completely private, or that women and men alike should not be sexualized at all? And I will not say Christians because many other religions and groups across the world prescribe to these beliefs. This begs a bigger question, beyond this statement, who is one to say that one person’s moral beliefs are better than another? Who is one to point out hypocrisy? These questions are ones that are asked numerous times by civil rights activists and progressives, but conservatives are begging people to ask the question of themselves. Who are you to say your morals are better than ours simply because you don’t agree?
Obviously both sides asking this question will not get anywhere. The answer that was presented by Rome and now again by Americans is the idea of syncretism. All beliefs and religions and gods are one. Each religion has a bit of the story with a bit of junk thrown in. Each set of beliefs is only right when accepting the nice things. Being exclusive means you are wrong because not everyone can enjoy your beliefs in their own way. Syncretism is flawed. It persists that any person knows the whole story of the universe well enough to be able to pick and choose their beliefs at their own will. While this is appealing to many, a question that must be asked then is, who is right? And even though a mindset of “everyone is a little bit right” is appealing as well, it cannot be true. With the amount of people in the world, or even just the united states, or even just the state of Texas, heck, even just the University of Texas, there will be people with views that, as much as you wish to construe them, cannot both be right. And if only certain aspects of their conflicting views are correct, who are you, or who is anyone, to say which parts are right? It will go on forever!
Why are there people attacking religions simply because they are different form their own beliefs of syncretism (which is a spiritual belief of its own)? Why are there people attacking ‘kinks’ but defending ‘sluts’? The same reason some people are against gay marriage and others are not, their beliefs.
SAM SPRATT’s 2014 PORTRAIT GIVEAWAY
In short: Reblogs and Likes of this picture are each entries to have me paint a personalized portrait of you.
In slightly less short: Longtime followers are no stranger to these contests but for those new to this or me, I’m an illustrator (my work: www.samspratt.com ) who has worked with National Geographic, Janelle Monáe, Childish Gambino, FX, Game Informer, Angry Birds, Wall Street Journal, among others – creating album and magazine covers, advertisements, and posters – but a big part of me being able to do all that has been you sharing my work over the last 3 years. As my small way of paying that forward, I’d like to paint for one of you as I would for my clients, but ya know … for free. Maybe you want that regal portrait of you in a velvet smoking jacket to hang over your mantel, maybe one of your loved one, favorite character, or perhaps you just want me to paint you however I see fit (warning: this will 100% involve dinosaurs) – if you can think it, I’ll probably paint it – and I’ll work with you to make it something special.
As usual I’ll also be sending signed prints and haikus about your eyebrows to extra winners. The contest will stay open for about a week then I’ll randomly draw winners. You can enter on facebook and twitter for extra entries but be cool and don’t spam your followers.
Marchesa Fall 2014 RTW
Anna Karenina, anyone? @badgleymischka took #nyfw to the Russian ballroom #aw14